Did Eating All The Forbidden Food You Wanted Make You Happy?
Before I started the low-carb nutritional lifestyle I had all the foods I wanted, whenever I wanted them and in whatever amounts I wanted them. But the fact is, that kind of freedom didn’t really make me happy…it just made me fat! And if we’ll all be truthful with ourselves, the more we ate, the worse we felt. That few minutes of enjoying the seductive taste and texture of our favorite forbidden foods was swiftly followed by guilt, shame, remorse, embarrassment, disgust, regret and failure, just to name a few.
“Objectively, the state of deprivation may be a myth, but the feeling is very real. What many people don’t realize is that it’s also a learned response. And what has been learned can be unlearned.” ~~Dr. Stephen Gullo
Every action begins with a thought! But every thought does not have to lead to an action! We, as humans, have the ability to take charge of evil, damaging, destructive thoughts and extinguish them before we act on them. And I know some of us are already saying, “thinking a bad thought is just as bad as doing it…so I may as well just go ahead and do it.” So, does that mean if I think about shooting you, that I should just go ahead and shoot you…merely because “I thought about it”? I don’t think so!!! I think you’ll agree that thinking about shooting you is not nearly as bad as actually shooting you. It’s an extreme example, but you get my point.
So, just because you think…or even obsess, about eating something that’s not “on plan” doesn’t mean you might as well go ahead and eat it, and it certainly doesn’t mean that the thought is as bad as eating it. That is self-serving, self-justifying thinking and it is in the end, self-destructive! If your kids even suggested doing something stupid just because they thought about it, you’d be all over them like ugly on an ape! You’d immediately give them ten reasons why you won’t ever allow it to happen. And those reasons will be the “consequences” of their action! Consequences…now there’s a word you’d never hear me use when I was an over-eater! Ya think it might have something do with the fact that I wouldn’t allow myself to think beyond the momentary pleasures of the chocolate covered donut in my hand? In order to overcome the Deprivation Mindset we’re all going to have to switch our thinking from the “pleasure mentality” to the “consequence mentality”!
Overcoming the Deprivation Mindset — Part 1
Overcoming the Deprivation Mindset — Part 3
Overcoming the Deprivation Mindset — Part 4
There Really is Life Without Donuts!
Ron, aka The Former Donut Junkie
Nov 06, 2008 @ 20:19:43
Nov 07, 2008 @ 11:59:10
Great one, Ron! You’re so right about the consequence part. Perhaps, if when we are in the midst of overeating, we could sop and remember that we are going to feel rotten and every second sooner that we stop, is a chance to free ourselves–this would help us stop.
But even better, is to stop before you start.
doesn’t always happen like this, so I think an optimal solution, once you have started, it to remind yourself you can put on the brakes RIGHT NOW!
Nov 10, 2008 @ 06:06:00
What a brilliant assessment and description of the destructive thought process that leads to binging and obesity … and the mindset that is needed to overcome it. Learning to stop … and think … about the consequences is one of the best things we can learn.
One might consider making a list of what it costs to eat with abandon .. and a list of what is gained if you do not. Looking at that list helps us change our thought process and realize our consequences, good and bad. It can be a useful tool in learning a new response.
Keep up the great work and writing, Ron; you shine like a beacon from a lighthouse leading others to the path of health and fitness. Very best wishes .. Ranae
Nov 19, 2008 @ 09:57:52
You so on the mark about learned behavior. I’m trying to do some serious unlearning myself. Namely eating when I’m bored, lonely or frustrated.
One thing I have noticed while working on this problem, is when I eat to cover these emotions, it’s not the taste of food I’m after, most times I cram it in so fast I don’t taste it anyway, and I’m not choicey about what I eat either. What I’m really after is just something to do, something to occupy my mind.
I’m sure it’s different for other people. But I’ve really been paying attention to me for a change and what I’m learning is pretty scary stuff. I always thought I ate to much because I enjoyed the food. Now I’m finding that I don’t even have to enjoy it, and that’s more than a little sad.
Thanks Ron for another wonderful article.
If I don’t get a chance later, I wanted to wish you a happy Thanksgiving.
Vikki
Dec 01, 2008 @ 19:24:03
Dec 01, 2008 @ 19:27:23