Overcoming the Deprivation Mindset — Part 2

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Did Eating All The Forbidden Food You Wanted Make You Happy?

Before I started the low-carb nutritional lifestyle I had all the foods I wanted, whenever I wanted them and in whatever amounts I wanted them.  But the fact is, that kind of freedom didn’t really make me happy…it just made me fat!  And if we’ll all be truthful with ourselves, the more we ate, the worse we felt.  That few minutes of enjoying the seductive taste and texture of our favorite forbidden foods was swiftly followed by guilt, shame, remorse, embarrassment, disgust, regret and failure, just to name a few.

“Objectively, the state of deprivation may be a myth, but the feeling is very real.  What many people don’t realize is that it’s also a learned response.  And what has been learned can be unlearned.” ~~Dr. Stephen Gullo

Every action begins with a thought!  But every thought does not have to lead to an action!  We, as humans, have the ability to take charge of evil, damaging, destructive thoughts and extinguish them before we act on them.  And I know some of us are already saying, “thinking a bad thought is just as bad as doing it…so I may as well just go ahead and do it.” So, does that mean if I think about shooting you, that I should just go ahead and shoot you…merely because “I thought about it”?  I don’t think so!!!  I think you’ll agree that thinking about shooting you is not nearly as bad as actually shooting you.  It’s an extreme example, but you get my point.

So, just because you think…or even obsess, about eating something that’s not “on plan” doesn’t mean you might as well go ahead and eat it, and it certainly doesn’t mean that the thought is as bad as eating it.  That is self-serving, self-justifying thinking and it is in the end, self-destructive!  If your kids even suggested doing something stupid just because they thought about it, you’d be all over them like ugly on an ape!  You’d immediately give them ten reasons why you won’t ever allow it to happen.  And those reasons will be the “consequences” of their action!  Consequences…now there’s a word you’d never hear me use when I was an over-eater!  Ya think it might have something do with the fact that I wouldn’t allow myself to think beyond the momentary pleasures of the chocolate covered donut in my hand?  In order to overcome the Deprivation Mindset we’re all going to have to switch our thinking from the “pleasure mentality” to the “consequence mentality”!

Overcoming the Deprivation Mindset — Part 1

Overcoming the Deprivation Mindset — Part 3

Overcoming the Deprivation Mindset — Part 4

There Really is Life Without Donuts!

Ron, aka The Former Donut Junkie

Overcoming the Deprivation Mindset — Part 1

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OK, I’ve been wanting to post about the damage and deceit of what’s called “The Deprivation Mindset”, but as usual I couldn’t stop with just a simple post.  So, I’ve had to break it down into a series so you, my readers, don’t get lost in another one of my long-winded posts.  So here we go with Part 1.

Feeling a Little Deprived ‘Cause You Can’t Have That Chocolate Covered Donut?

The first few days and weeks of a diet, even the first few months for some of us, are filled with excitement, motivation and optimism.  But as we lose a few pounds and become happier and healthier, there is sometimes a tendency for our excitement, motivation and optimism to fade.  It’s at this point that we are in danger of sabotaging ourselves by losing our focus, blurring our boundaries and getting sloppy with our newly learned, healthy, low-carb nutritional lifestyle.  This mindset, left unchecked, can quickly lead us right back down the road to our old destructive eating habits.

One of the underlying causes of this derailing behavior is the old, “I deserve it…it’s not fair…everybody else is eating it…I earned it…I feel so deprived” mindset.  This childish way of thinking, called the Deprivation Mindset, could just as easily and accurately be called the Failure Mindset, according to Dr. Stephen Gullo, author of The Thin Commandments Diet.  It is by our very own deceptive thoughts that we conceive such damaging notions, and by our very own self-deprecating words that we perpetuate and reinforce those thoughts until they give birth to compulsive, emotional, mindless over-eating!  It is a childish way of thinking that says, “any and all boundaries and guidelines are bad and unnecessary!” At times I’ve heard that child within me screaming and throwing a “fit”, demanding that I have anything and everything I want to eat…regardless of the consequences!  If you’ve ever struggled with weight control, then you’ve probably experienced the same “fits” from the “child within you” as well.

Don’t feel bad, because the fact is, dieting has always been associated with deprivation.  It’s kind of like a “virus” that infects you the minute you start dieting.  I actually hate the term “diet”, because it implies a temporary way of eating instead of a healthy nutritional lifestyle of weight control and maintenance.  And that “temporary way of losing a few pounds” is exactly what makes you feel deprived.  While you are stuck eating some tiny, despicable looking, detestable tasting “food-like-substance”, all your friends are eating as many of those luscious, delicious, tempting, sinful, sugary, carb-laden treats they care to stuff their face with.  Therefore, in your own mind, you feel deprived!  And that my friend is the “Deprivation Mindset” in a nutshell…or shall we say, “The Failure Mindset”?

“We all have power over the feeling of deprivation — the ability to control it, decrease it, even extinguish it — because the source of it begins and ends with you.”  ~~Dr. Stephen Gullo

Discovering this hidden way of destructive thinking, and knowing that I have the power to destroy it before it destroys me has been one of the most empowering strategies I have learned about successful weight control.  I can truthfully say that “a light really came on” when I read about this concept in Dr. Gullo’s book.  If you have the book you’ll find this topic as “The Eighth Thin Commandment: Stop Feeling Deprived”.

Overcoming the Deprivation Mindset — Part 2

Overcoming the Deprivation Mindset — Part 3

Overcoming the Deprivation Mindset — Part 4

There Really is Life Without Donuts!

Ron, aka The Former Donut Junkie

Former Donut Junkie Endorses Krystal 4 Carb Breakfast Scrambler!

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I’ve talked about how I go out for breakfast most mornings at The Krystal. A little fast-food chain similar to White Castle. They have a 4-Carb Scrambler that I eat every morning, which is simply 2 scrambled eggs, a slice of cheese and 2 sausage patties. And of course I have a couple of cups of Krystal coffee.

I blogged a review of the Krystal 4-Carb Scrambler recently and just this week Krystal picked up on it and now has it posted on the Krystalist, their company blog. Former Donut Junkie Endorses Krystal’s 4 Carb Breakfast Scrambler.

There Really is Life Without Donuts!

Ron, aka The Former Donut Junkie